When the husband’s away, the wife will: oversleep, get pulled over, forget to eat, convince their priest she’s having an affair, and thoroughly fail at life.
 iStockphoto Last Friday morning, I was driving down I-95, steering with a knee while simultaneously gulping coffee and putting on mascara, when I saw the flashing lights behind me. I was so tired that the bolt of panic and stomach-dropping dread I usually feel whenever I see a cop’s lights in my rearview—even when they’re not on for me—barely even registered. I’d stayed up late the night before doing important things like watching seven episodes of Real Housewives. It took all my energy to stuff the makeup back into my bag so he wouldn’t suspect me of dangerously multitasking, and to pull out a bag of cough drops and scatter some tissues around so that maybe he’d take pity on my poor sick, speeding soul.
I wanted to explain to him the real reason I was running late and looking generally unkempt, but I was too tired, and the truth would have seemed too pathetic: My husband was away for the night, and I apparently lose all ability to take care of myself like an adult human when he’s not around.
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 Hemera We know that posting about your marital finances isn’t exactly as fun as chatting about what flavor of macarons you’re going to get for your wedding favors, but every once in a while we’ve just gotta pop into that topic.
We saw this great piece on HuffPo today on the five financial conversations you’ve got to have before getting married, and we couldn’t agree more! It basically covers all of the things we’ve harped on before—how, before you are married, it’s best to figure out things like, say, who’s the spender and who’s the saver; what your longterm financial goals are; how you’re going to combine your finances; who has what debt (this is not an area where either one of you are going to want to be surprised), and all of those things that admittedly are not all that fun to talk about—that can be stressful, even, if we’re all being honest—but that will absolutely come back to haunt you if you don’t hash them out now.
Have you and your groom figured out how your finances will work once you’ve gotten married?
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So says a divorce lawyer.
 Photodisc Or, as Jezebel hysterically describes it, “marriages are falling apart because women be drinking.” So consider this your friendly PSA!
In a proclamation that made us giggle a little bit—well, not the divorce part, of course, but kinda the rest of it—a lawyer at a British law firm recently pointed out that these days, it would seem that wives a) are not waiting at home for their husbands perched over a hot stove; b) are going out and socializing and drinking with their friends (hence the dubbing of this particular activity as “Sex and the City drinking” we’re assuming; and c) (surprise!) are just as stressed as their husbands when it comes to work and life.
For these reasons, she claims to see 40-50 divorces per year where alcohol is reportedly the culprit—more often than not, the alcohol in the ladies’ hands, that is—or, in other mathematical terms, an increase of 70 percent over the past five years in divorces where the husband says that the wife is a boozer.
If those statistics concerning divorce—well, and alcoholism—are true, that’s bad, for sure. But the idea that women going out for drinks with their girlfriends is something new (I mean, SATC ended in 2004, after all) or is something that is so shocking and unacceptable to men that they’d peace out on their wives for such an offense seems a little odd. We’re going to have to agree with the Jez article that points out that perhaps something else is going on, here.
Either way, at the very least maybe just check in with your groom that he’s not keeping a little tally of your girls nights out in a secret Excel sheet to use against you the next time you yell at him for leaving his socks laying around.
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Jeff Salvage is a professor at Drexel University and a part-time professional photographer. His latest (and ongoing) project: photographing his wife Jennifer in her wedding dress over the past nearly five years of their marriage as they hop across the globe on various trips and vacations.
The story goes that it all started in 2008 at the couple’s wedding in Chile. Jeff wanted Jennifer to pose all over Easter Island, where their celebration was, so as to get a few different gorgeous shots of her in her wedding dress in this awesome location. Since then, Jeff has shot Jennifer wearing her strapless Maggie Sottero wedding dress everywhere from gazing over the Great Wall of China and at the Eiffel tower, to on a camel in Egypt, descending a staircase in the Vatican and diving in Jamaica (yep, she’s taken it underwater). There’s dog sledding in Iceland, there are waterfalls in New Zealand … well, you get the picture. (Ha!)
It’s a project they call One Woman, One Dress, One World, and they’ve chronicled it all on their blog (you can check out the gallery of images there, too). It’s really something. Sure beats those “trash the dress” sessions, if you ask me!
Do you have any plans for any crazy shots in your wedding dress, either on your Big Day or after?
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 Jupiterimages We like to remind our brides from time to time that mixed in with all the talks you and your to-be will have about the actual wedding itself—like, literally, the five-hour party that will celebrate your tying of the knot—you should also try your darndest to fit in some talks about that other thing coming up: marriage.
So when we saw this article on CNN today, we knew we had to share, because it talks about a particular topic that actually begs discussion just as much as anything else—finance, careers, where you’ll live, splitting up of the home duties—in your marital future: sex.
In it, experts insist that whether or not you’re having it before marriage, and whether or not it’s out-of-this-world fantastic at this very given moment, you’ve still got it hash it all out: not just preferences and expectations, but hypothetical scenarios (and no, they’re not talking about role-playing, there), communication, and problem solving. They also suggest that some form of pre-marital counseling is an excellent way to go about this, if you and your partner just aren’t sure where to start.
You know, other than the bedroom.
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And other thoughts on marriage.
Jessica Biel’s been making the media rounds lately to chat about her new movie with Gerard Butler, Playing For Keeps—but of course, after politely listening to her talk about that, most interviewers are just going straight for what people really want to know about: her brand, spanking-new marriage to Justin Timberlake!
This morning on Good Morning America, she chatted with Elizabeth Vargas about just that. Turns out, she’s liking this new jam as his wife.
RELATED: Jessica Biel Wore a Pink Giambattista Valli Gown to Marry Justin Timberlake
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 Photodisc Carly Day. That’s my name. (Don’t wear it out!) I’ve always loved my name: easy to say, easy to spell, and I think it has a nice ring to it. Back in high school both teachers and friends would call me by my full name. “It just flows,” they would say.
I’ve been Carly (Anne) Day for 28 years (aka my whole life) and that’s all about to change … How weird is that? I’ve always known that I would want to take my husband’s last name when I get married. I like the idea of sharing a name and beginning a family together. I know that there are other options out there: keeping my maiden name, hyphenating, or (most untraditional) asking Sean to take my name. But none of those options will do for me, so I’ll just have to get used to my new name, Meluney.
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 Stockbyte I heard this on the news over the weekend and gave it a hmm: A new Norwegian study, reports the Telegraph, finds that in households where men share an equal amount of the household chores, divorce rates are higher. Conversely, in households where the woman just takes care of it all, it appears that everyone lives happily ever after.
Jezebel has some thoughts on this subject, as does the Atlantic Wire. And, I mean, while it might be easy to momentarily imagine that in a house where a woman just does it all herself, there are no squabbles, as everything is done in a timely and efficient (read: it’s just done right) manner, mostly, we are going to go ahead and declare this study to sound a little silly.
What do you think? Do you think sharing of the household chores results/would result in less fights or more fights? Have you guys found an arrangement that works really well for you?
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It's not all about the party, you know.
 Wavebreak Media The Philly Post‘s resident advice columnist recently listed some major life topics that all couples should have serious discussions about before they tie the knot—from money to children to how often you’ll have “date night”—that we thought we should share with our engaged readers.
Have you and your groom covered all of these? If not, she’s right—get on it!
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 Digital Vision Though most couples are beyond excited for their honeymoon, the truth is, a lot of times planning it takes a backseat to planning the wedding: The bride and groom will agree on a locale and hotel, the bride will hastily wave away the groom to go book it along with the airfare while she gets back to choosing the perfect shade of hydrangea, and they figure they’ll just make up the rest as they go along when they get there a day or two after the wedding. Which, in some cases—especially if you are planning to just lay face down on the beach for two weeks—can actually work out.
But especially if you are going on a more hardcore traveling kind of honeymoon (Paris! Switzerland! Africa!), you really do need to actually sit down together and hammer some things out. And we don’t mean where you’ll dine on most nights and what day you’ll get your couples’ massage—stuff like finding out if your phones are going to work in Europe, what types of documents you’ll need to country hop, and whether or not your credit company is going to freak out when you start swiping your plastic at boutiques in Greece.
USA Today‘s Travel section had a great article today on just those sorts of things, and we felt like it was an excellent share for couples getting ready to head off on a far-flung honeymoon trip, which are especially popular in the warm-weather season. So read, and maybe even print it out, and then go get prepared: You’ve got honeymooning to do!
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